Divorced Veterans With Children

Divorced Veterans With Children

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I’m not going to blow smoke up your butt or tell you that everything is going to be ok. Once your relationship reaches this stage, it’s in trouble. Maybe you’ll get back together and maybe not. If you’ve got children, keep on reading because that’s where I’m headed.

The kids will be hurt when parents split up and that can’t be avoided. The divorced veteran sort of gets a double gut punch because the military is history and so is the spouse. Let’s see if we can minimize the collateral damage by keeping the kids out of the argument. What I’m suggesting goes against what lawyers tell you because it cuts down their fee.

The operative word here is “ok.” Divorced veterans continue to argue needlessly over allot of issues related to the children. Visitation is a big one and it doesn’t have to be. Constant disagreements over pickup times, locations, days and the duration of visits not only keep the bad times rolling but it hurts the kids. One parent or the other often uses the kids as a weapon and the kids get stressed. To avoid all this mess and piss off your Ex, just say “ok.”

In the beginning, you’ll probably be inconvenienced, annoyed and pissed off but don’t show your hand. If your Ex is a no-show at the next arranged location, go home and wait for the another meeting. When the Ex calls with more changes, just say “ok.” When you do see your children, very briefly explain that your Ex may have gotten too busy to keep the last appointment. Don’t say bad things about your Ex.

Eventually, maybe your Ex will get tired of playing the games. If so, you’ve got something that resembles a win. A win for you and certainly a win for the kids. Without the arguments, you might even increase the odds of reconciliation with your Ex if that’s what you want. If the games never stop, at least you avoided hurting the kids, the arguments and maybe the cops. After the kids learn to drive, problem solved.